Top 5 Socializing Do’s and Don’ts
1. Do Listen Sincerely
Uni can be overwhelming and we tend to bottle up our frustrations. Listening to others
sincerely, helps them to feel better because it allows them to let out their worries and
frustrations. However, your happiness is just as important. So don’t continually sacrifice
your peace of mind to listen to the troubles of others especially if the person is always
negative. It's fine to give a lending ear once in a while but be careful to not become
someone else punching bag.
2. Don’t talk about yourself so much
The average person’s attention span is eight seconds. Even tho it may seem like they are
listening to you, in reality, they are just nodding their head and secretly wishing you would
shut up. Seriously, don’t be a “me” monster when socialising. Be courteous of others and
allow them to share how fun their weekend was.
3.Do be yourself
It may be fun to tell people that you were fighting off lions over the weekend. But if you
want to build long-lasting friendships, its best to be yourself and be honest. Not saying you
have to be a serious grouch all the time, but there are ways to share about yourself that are
both truthful and engaging. After all, if they can’t accept you for who you are then they are
not real friends anyway.
4.Don’t be on the phone
Cell-phone is so commonplace these days. But using them respectfully isn’t so common.
Nothing says “I don’t care what you’re saying” more than being on your phone while
someone is talking to you...Well at least trying to talk to you. Be courteous of others;
Unless you are expecting an important call, do not incessantly check, look at, or attend to
your phone when you’re having a conversation.
5.Do be open-minded
Socialising does not only involve sitting around a table and talking. Socialising can mean
playing ping pong, billiards, or shooting some hoops. Be open-minded to fun activities
because that is usually a great opportunity to socialise and let out your dorky side. But also
remember to not engage in activities that you are not comfortable with and remind your
friends to respect your boundaries. Being open and honest allows you to determine who
your real friends are.
Although these 5 tips does not guarantee that you will make friends at Uni, they are
guidelines that will help us effectively interact with others whether it is at the workplace, at
university, or even on the metro.